True disciples are known by their love...

"A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.  By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another." -John 13:34-35

True disciples of Christ shouldn't:

...shun former church members.
...call and rebuke former "church members" for no longer attending.
...twist scripture to guilt "said members" into returning.
...twist scripture at all!
...use one another for personal gain.
...lie to or about one another.
...accuse former members of being tares because they chose to leave.
...state the other members aren't "serious about God" if they aren't at every service.
...lust after and proposition each other's husbands and wives.
...only help each other when there's an audience.
...treat each other as disposable objects and not human beings.
...run the "church" like a corporation, treating members like parts in a machine.
...sexually violate ANY other human being. PERIOD.
...esteem themselves higher than others.
...bring any sort of reproach to the Lord Jesus.
...make the Word of God to appear as book of lies, through their words and actions.
...be hypocrites.
...manipulate or deceive others.
...attempt to mind-control program others.
...take advantage of the mental failings and frailties of others.
...give wolves full access to the sheep.

and many more that can't all be recorded here...

If we are disciples of Christ, we should act, look and sound like we have the same Father...the same Master.  Many who claim to be my brothers and sisters, I don't see any family resemblance whatsoever.  This is what begins to happen when we come into a deep personal revelation of Jesus.  When we really spend time with Him and get to know Him. When we LOVE Him with our whole hearts and not with our lips!   It's a beautiful thing to get to know Jesus!